Nick Miller is Not Your Dream Guy

I've been watching New Girl recently and I have to say that I LOVE the stupid show. The one liners, the banter, the situations they all get into- its my kind of humor apparently because every episode nearly has me in tears from laughing. If you're not familiar with the show, I'll give you a quick recap: Jess, Zooey Deschannel, finds her boyfriend cheating and so sets out to look for a new place to live. She stumbles across a Craig's List ad for a few guys looking for a fourth roommate, assuming they were all gay. The guys are all very much hetero, and while they debate over whether or not to let a woman live with them, they ultimately decide in her favor. The rest of the show is about everyone's quirks and how they all come together to make one big crazy family- sorry, that was cheesy. About halfway through Season 1, the audience begins to root for Jess and one of the guys to get together. Enter: Nick Miller- or, Jake Johnson. He's handsome, he's funny, and he has this "protective" thing for Jess that is just SO cute. You basically can't help but want these two together, mostly because they are at odds most of the time, but you know they would be great together because of that. There, New Girl in a nut shell.

So what's not to love about Nick Miller, you ask? I mean, he seems totally great! Well, I will tell you. First of all, we have to remember that this is secular TV, so the shows are more often than not based around sex- innuendos, the act itself, everything- including this one. Nick, Jess, and the rest of the characters hook up regularly- or they try. 

So strike one, Nick sleeps around and he's a flirt. In the real world, you DON'T want that guy. He's going to flirt with other girls, even if you're "together" and he's probably not truly invested in the relationship. Not only is that kind of icky, but it's a fairly good sign that he doesn't have any respect for God or the Truth.** This guy is only looking for one thing. Yeah, you know what it is.

Strike two, Nick Miller is a drunk. And so are the other guys. In the show, it's funny. They get into hilarious situations and everyone is always laughing and having a good time. But let's think about real life for a second: a man who gets drunk often is not a man you want to be around. He's likely to be more violent and he's not always going to be the "happy go lucky" kind of drunk. On top of that, it's another sign that he has no respect for God or even you.

Strike three, Nick Miller is a hopeless romantic. Wait...that's a downside? Well, yes. In the show, Nick is kind of like a teddy bear. He's openly emotional, especially when he drinks, and he falls for the girls he hooks up with very quickly. He's even had a long-lasting thing for Jess, which is kind of endearing. But now let's think- a guy who is overly attached and falls for every girl he dates? That's not really that attractive. That's just annoying. And don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with a man showing emotion. After all, Jesus himself wept, but it is also important to be in control of your emotions. Letting those run rampant in your life are not productive.

So there ya have it. Nick Miller may seem like a dreamy, sweet, romantic kind of guy. And maybe he IS perfect for Jess, but we have to remember its a fictional show, and we shouldn't actively chase after that kind of guy. As women we are called to follow God, first and foremost, and if a guy should come into our lives, he should be a strong believer, a promising and active spiritual leader, and someone who will be loyal. Remember: Nick Miller is NOT your dream guy, Jesus is.

**Side note: I'm not saying that if you find a man who loves God, but he's not a virgin, you should dump him. God works in all ways. Just one example is Bathsheba and how God changed her heart and used her for His people. If you believe a guy is truly after God's heart, that is what matters.